I was happy. Beyond happy. I loved my life, my friends, the organization I was involved with (FFA), the University of Arizona which I attended, everything. My life was perfect and everything was going my way. I was comfortable, and content….. or so I thought. All of a sudden I found myself not in the position that I thought I wanted and deserved with FFA. I didn’t know what my next move was because I had basically planned my entire summer and next year around this.
Now let me clarify that in no way shape or form am I trying to talk badly about the FFA. I love the organization through which I found my best friends, mentored hundreds of high school students, learned so much about the agriculture industry that I love, and made some of the best memories of my life! But it had also given me what I thought was one of my biggest disappointments.
But this isn’t about me; this is about you. I want to share my experience so that anyone who needs a change, even if you don’t know it, can find the courage to make it.
Life makes it so easy to get caught up going through the motions. You’re comfortable, you’re doing well, but worst of all…. you think you’re happy. Now just because you’re not truly happy does not mean you’re unhappy necessarily. I found myself by no means unhappy but complacent. I’ve learned that complacency is the worst place to be because when you are floating in complacency, there is no motivation to move.
As soon as my place of complacency was taken away from me, I was forced to move; this move has been the best thing for me. In my confusion and uncertainty of what to do, I moved to San Angelo, Texas for the summer. Well, the summer quickly turned into a permanent move along with several career (and life) changing decisions. I was forced to gain a new perspective, this new perspective has made all the difference.
When you are forced to move, you are forced to try new things, to see what you really love. You are given the courage (and a good excuse) to do what you have always wanted to do.
I have finally learned how to be truly happy. More importantly, I have learned how to recognize complacency, and how to constantly move forward and grow.
My advice to you?
Don’t wait to be forced to move. Constantly evaluate your life. Write down what you really want, and make sure that everything you’re doing lines up with that. If it changes, that’s fine! But make sure your changes are what you really want.
Give everything a chance. If an opportunity comes your way, take it! Things don’t happen by accident and you never know what it will bring or reveal to you.
Never Hold a Grudge. I’ll be honest, it would be easy for me to be angry about not being offered the position with FFA that I wanted. But I choose to recognize that the time I spent with them was one of the best experiences of my life. By them not giving me the position I wanted, they only increased my opportunity.
Embrace the Change. Know that discomfort is only temporary. Change brings a whole new level of happiness. Work with it not against it.
Always remember that you are loved. This is the time you will find the ones who truly care about you. They will support the change and do whatever they can to make it easier on you.
Now go make the change you need! Trust me it is beyond worth it…..